Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Foster Care

Ever since I was pregnant with Will, I knew that we would be foster parents at some point. About 2 years ago, Scott agreed. Lately it's been on my mind a lot more than usual. It would be really hard to do right now, but I wasn't sure if this was something that I really needed to act on, or if it was just me. So last night we went to the County Foster Care orientation. Aaron & Rachel watched our kids, which was great. It was a very interesting meeting, and we both feel sure that we will in the future foster kids, but not now. Scott is working and in school full time, and our kids are very young. And our house is pretty small. So we decided we'll go to another foster orientation when Scott's done with school (about 2 years) and see how things look then. Some stuff:

--One good thing about having your first kid when you're 20/21 is that you're still real young when those kids are grown up. Especially around here, having little kids at 40 is no big deal.
--It's actually bad when abuse gets so bad that the child confesses it themselves--if a teacher reports it, there's an outside source of blame for their life & family being torn apart. But if they report it, they blame themselves, minimize the abuse, and live in "what ifs."
--We're not going into this with the plan to adopt any children. However, that being said, if a child we had became legally free, we would definitely consider it.
--There are little kids out there, who are neglected and abused and given alcohol and drugs while they are still in their Momma's tummies, and it's terrible. We're not perfect parents. We already have a lot of kids, and life is just absolutely crazy. But we love each other, and love our kids, (and pretty much all kids) and we can at least give hurting children a safe place, where they will be loved and smiled at and hugged and tickled and have books read to them every day.
--Whenever this actually happens, I will tell you now that we'll need lots of help and understanding and prayers. And probably lots of extra ice cream. Just sayin'.

They played this video in the class. It's not R-rated, but you probably shouldn't watch it with your kids. Basically the lady said that if you can model kind and loving behavior, and an appropriate relationship between a couple, you will do a huge amount of good for these traumatized kids. Obviously there needs to be more than that, but even just that basic "good example" will go a VERY long way. I guess that's true for everyone though, not just abused children.

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Some Stuff!

So! Summer is over! Will started school this week, which was a little sad and a little exciting.

Isn't he so big? Incredible. He has the only male teacher in the school, which he thinks is pretty great. His teacher is also the only one that LETS them go outside every day to run laps! So exciting! Everything has gone pretty well so far. His teacher has gopher snake eggs in the classroom in an incubator tank, and one of them hatched on Friday, and all the kids got to hold it. I'm a little jealous that I never had a teacher that awesome. Also, Will was fighting on the monkey bars with his friend yesterday, and he fell off, and landed on his head (and leg) and got up, walked all wobbeldy for a few steps, then fell down. He said he then felt like he was asleep, and woke up a minute later with his friend asking if he was OK, and he forgot he was at school. So then they just kept playing, and didn't tell anyone or go to the nurse. You know. No biggie. Just passing out on the playground and stuff. So, now two of my kids have passed out due to falling on their heads, and neither one was Ben! We just sat around and watched a movie yesterday afternoon, and Evy cuddled up with Will and held his hand most of the time. It was super cute.

We had a good water fight in the backyard the week before school started: I stood by the porch and sprayed the hose, and the kids ran through it. Great system.

Evy got hold of the camera, and took lots of picture of my fabric cupboard (good girl!) and....

Thankfully the camera is still alive.

I bought a huge bag of fridge letters from a thrift store for $4. There are at least 5 different fonts in there. The current goal is to keep them all high enough on the fridge that Max can't reach.

I finished up more blocks for my charity quilting bee, do. Good Stitches.

Also, I planned out what my design will be for my month (October) and I'm pretty excited. I've changed my mind a gazillion times already, but I actually drew it out on graph paper with the kids' colored pencils, and had Scott do the maths for me, so hopefully I still love it on October first when I need to give out the directions.

After designing the aforementioned quilt, I decided that graph paper was a way good way to keep track of all my awesome quilt ideas, so I needed a little graph paper book. Also, I decided it should be free. So I got out a pretty file folder I bought at Barnes & Noble like 5 years ago and a bunch of graph paper from a notepad and sewed it together! It looks pretty good! It's a bit crooked, and I forgot to backstitch the ends so it may all unravel, and my stitch length was really short so it might rip through the paper. But hey! I made me a quilt design journal!